Sunday, April 5, 2009
Teen identity
Today I put blue highlights in my 15 y/o son's hair. His natural hair color is dark brown so it's not really drastic, quite subtle, but enough to make a statement. He has been leaning towards the emo kid style the past couple of years even though his dad is totally against it, he stays with his dad through the week and me on the weekends, when I moved to our new town almost two years ago he tried it out but he is quite shy around new people and had a hard time adjusting to a huge school, his old school was tiny in comparison so he opted to go stay with his dad, even though he has major issues with his dad who has a very bad attitude when it comes to everything! Blake first got his ear pierced which he kept stretching it (gaged) until you can see through the hole but I told him that it stops there, no bigger! Yuck! He would have piercing everywhere and tatoos if I would let him....NOT! The hair I can handle but his dad with blow his top when he goes back tonight (no big surprise). I don't make a big production of small things like hair because he is just trying to find his identity and trying to fit in in this cruel world. I tell him to remind his dad of his big 80's perm when he was his age when he starts. :) Blake is really a good kid, he never goes anywhere other than school and to ball games, so I am thankful. MY husband's girl's ages 17 and 15, are all over the place, his ex has custody and because of their ages, there's not much he can do according to several lawyers. Their mom turns them lose and they are with bad friends, staying all night almost every night and the oldest one has already quit school and showed up at our house high at Christmas. I worry about what kind of future is in store for them.
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Boys are hard. Does he have a cell phone? It makes all the difference to finding friends. I think my post tomorrow may be about boys and friends. They have a very tough time. Never had a girls parents sitting in the principals office crying how she had no friends. But, several boys parents. It's tough for the guys to socialize.
ReplyDeleteSometimes a Mother really doesn't know how her child is. My mom would always tell people about how she percieved my life, and she never came close to being correct. A boy only lets his mother know what he wants his mother to know. Don't feel bad, this is not really a bad thing, and you may think that I am wrong and that you know him 100%, but I am just talking from personal experiences of myself and my friends and brothers. As for the girls, I've seen alot of 16-19 year olds in NC that drop out of school, have babies and end up living with family until they are 40. I am not that old, but I have seen quite a few examples of this!
ReplyDeletethanks for comments-he has a handful of friends and he does have a cell phone, but he doesnt talk on it much. He chats with alot of people online and is super smart with computers. Yeah, he is very private about most stuff, if he has a girlfriend, he would rather die than to tell me. He has friends that are girls, one he has been friends with since elementary school, if its more than that, I don't know, I try to ask him questions, but if he doesnt want to tell me things I don't push it.
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